Psychologist: Facing Fears Makes Kids More Resilient

What if protecting kids from every fear actually makes them less prepared for life's challenges?

Pediatric psychologist Kathryn Hecht believes the answer lies in "brave parenting." In her recent TED talk, she explains how exposing children to manageable discomfort helps them develop the resilience they need to thrive as adults.

The approach sounds counterintuitive. Most parents instinctively want to shield their kids from anything scary or difficult. But Hecht's research in exposure therapy shows that avoiding discomfort actually reinforces fear and anxiety.

Instead, she advocates helping children face their fears in small, supported steps. When kids learn they can handle uncomfortable situations, their confidence grows. They discover that difficult feelings don't last forever and that they're stronger than they think.

Hecht shares both scientific research and personal stories in her talk, recorded at TEDxMinneapolis in August 2025. She breaks down practical strategies parents can use immediately. The goal isn't to traumatize children or throw them into situations they're not ready for.

The secret is gradual exposure with support. A child afraid of dogs might first look at pictures of friendly dogs, then watch dogs from a distance, and eventually pet a calm dog with a parent nearby. Each small success builds confidence for the next step.

Why This Inspires

This parenting approach offers hope for a generation often described as anxious and struggling with mental health. Rather than another theory that adds pressure to parents, Hecht provides actionable tools rooted in proven psychological science.

Her message empowers both parents and children. Parents learn they don't need to eliminate every obstacle from their child's path. Kids learn they have the capability to handle hard things, which becomes a foundation for lifelong resilience.

The talk has resonated with thousands of viewers since posting, sparking conversations about how small acts of bravery today create confident adults tomorrow.

Raising kids who can handle life's inevitable challenges starts with letting them practice while you're still there to help.